Finally...rant...rant...hybrids being fertile will back cross with each other and their parents, producing heinous hybrid swarms - and these, as you'd expect, will express various permutations of either parent, so bud colour and degree of 'stickiness' is fairly hard to use reliably to distinguish hybrids, as is leaf shape, size and degree of serration, and flower size. I don't have space to explain this. So my suggestion is DON'T collect fruit of any ngaio unless you are 100% sure of what it is. If, as I think you live in Wellington, be very wary as lots of 'Tasmanian ngaio' was planted along State Highway One in the early 1970s and this has been a pollen donator to the local hybrid mess that Wellingtonian's now have. Same has happened here in Auckland, and its being made worse by nurseries 'eco-sourcing' "ngaio" seed from roadsides and those plants being used in restoration projects.
Hope that helps - it shard to explain in all the detail needed on the space allocation we have here